Vangie's presence has been very important for Groundel's ordeal. Not only because of the emotional support, but because she KNOWS how things should go in a hospital. She has maybe too much experience dealing with such matters, and so she knows what to say, what to ask, how to react and the like. That is something I don't know how to do, but that is learned along the way.
LadyDeath has been at his side, I know, but it is not a matter of who is there but what may be or was in his mind. I am not blood family for Groundel, but I know him as no one else but perhaps Vangie may know... There is too much shit that hit the fan in the past, and it all gives way to feelings of hurt, guilt, whatever... Many what if's on his side and on his family's side.
I am a stranger in a strange land. I just happenned to be a stranger that knew him for 15 years and that shared 8 years or his life as his girlfriend/betrothed/wife, you name it. Although his family has been around, in his mind they have been asteroids that passed by and that pushed him away. Now things may be different, but remember that years of hurt are not erased instantly... especially in his mind. Many lessons must be learned, many things must be forgiven, and many things must be understood. Only love can allow union on trying times. May real love push all the asteroids towards Groundel's planet, so you all crash into him and stay... changing his life completely for the better... as I couldn't succeed.
No, LadyDeath, you are not taken for granted... You have much to learn about many things, and it is a process... You need to grow up now more than ever. You are his sister, and it is great that finally you see that he needs you, and why. You've had glimpses of who Groundel is. He needs plenty of love, always has. I can only think based on the last 8 years of his life with me and around me. I was his everything, his world. I witnessed his pain from his grandmother's death, and throughout the years saw how only Vangie had been very open to him as family. Everyone else had been ideas he tried to be fond of, but that were quite ethereal. He lacked family love, and such he manifested to me constantly... And so I know that my presence helps him in a different way. I give him strength, safety and guidance. I don't think I am an absolute in his life, but I am a big influence, and when he fears I am the one he turns to. Love me, hate me... I can't be devoted to him because of circumstance. And it tears me apart, because I love him deeply. But that was a choice he made for me a long time ago. I know where my boundaries must be. So be it. It is time for you and your mother to get to know him, little by little, as you never have.
I am quite tired. All these days I’ve had an infection of my own, bearing with it had been testing my patience and mood and emotions. Somehow, the mage has been able to cope... He always surprises me with much needed kindness. I am completely drained…
Anyway… Life goes on. And Neverland will never be the same again.
10-4
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